Cutting off your nose to spite your face

We all know the old saying, "Don't cut off your nose to spite your face". However, we don't always follow it. This is what I dealt with today. The funny thing is that the laughs on them. Even if you don't like me or are angry with me or whatever, if I ask you to help me out with something to benefit someone else (not me) you would think you would do it right? Especially if this is a family member. Helping me out with this wouldn't be for me. I just wish others could see this. And not be so spiteful. I'll admit I can and have been spiteful at times but I don't think I've ever carried it on so long. I have a conscience and I have a heart so that eventually shines through my spitefulness ( I hope!). Oh well, what can I do.